The Small Choices

Our trajectory is always a culmination of a choice we made in the recent past. If our trajectory is a growth path, we probably made a hard choice to do what is necessary to grow. These include small decisions like waking up a little earlier, going to bed a earlier, finishing what we started, checking Facebook a

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The Liability Trajectory

Everyone is grateful for the kind teammate that is always willing to pick up our slack. Having each other’s back is what makes great teammates great. However, there is a danger for great teammates to be taken advantage of for their kindness and availability to help others. When I take advantage of a teammate’s willingness to help

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Social Media Misdirection

Insecurity is really just our constant worry of being found out. We all know that we are not as good as our Facebook status portrays. We are every bit as human as the next person but our constant comparison of what people see versus what I see in myself is chronicled on my social media posts. In

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True versus Fake

Pride is a projection of phony confidence to compensate for a vulnerability I am not comfortable exposing. My pride attempts to guard what I perceive to be my weakness. Pride seems confident but true confidence resides in a peaceful contentment with who I actually am. Pride has an anxiety tell that reveals a lack of true confidence.

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Symptomatic

The only real difference between pride and insecurity is circumstance. This might seem counterintuitive but pride and insecurity are really symptoms of the same sickness, a lack of confidence in who we actually are. The difference is that good circumstances feed our prideful story that make us feel better than we are and our bad days expose

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The Blinding Win

The flip side to the encouraging truth that nothing is ever as bad as it seems is that nothing is never as good as it seems either. Wins can have a way of hiding our liabilities. Small mistakes are overlooked and, if you win often enough, neglected as if they never happen. Mistakes and bad practices that

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Future Flames

I have learned that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. There is always some good to find in an adverse situation if we have the eyes to see it. Our pride and confirmation bias can work against us to create an all-or-nothing attitude toward our circumstances. There aren’t just learning opportunities in a loss. There

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Fastpass

I have noticed that it is important to be very specific about a problem if we want to solve it. Specificity helps narrow down possible solutions. Time is saved in trial and error if we are careful to describe a problem with specific details. The problem is that sometimes our technical inexperience limits our ability to be

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Am I the problem?

I often wonder this about myself when I feel the need to judge another person. Am I more worried about the difference of opinion because I might actually be the different that is wrong? Is my judgement of others a defense mechanism to soothe my own insecurity on the topic? Is my arrogant and narrow view really

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Arrogant Judgement

Ordinary teammates tend to get defensive when they discover disagreement. Their insecurity can lead them to strongly desire a resolution to the tension. This of course is not usually the decision to consider the other side of the disagreement but rather a campaign to convert others to the way they see things. The need to agree is

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