Category Archives: Handling Failure

New Mistakes

Mistakes are inevitable but old mistakes should disappear as a team improves. New mistakes show that the team or individual is progressing. They are learning and moving on with care to avoid the things they have learned don’t work out for the best. Old mistakes demonstrate a lack of care and a recklessness that prevents the team

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Owning Equals Change

The ownership of a mistake is not completely found in words that say the right things without laying any blame. That’s a good start but true ownership is demonstrated in changed behavior as result of solid reflection on what caused a mistake. Saying sorry over and over for the same mistake is as annoying as blaming others

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Reflecting on Our Mistakes

We have not truly owned our mistake if we haven’t spent some time thinking about it. Reflection on negative experiences can be painful and that‘s why we often move on too quickly only to repeat whatever choices led to the mistake. Reflection allows us to learn and that makes any mistake worth it. An ounce of prevention

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Looking Good

Ownership of a mistake is counterintuitive to those that work hard to keep up appearances. Let’s be honest, it’s sometimes difficult to own a mistake because we don’t want the incident to harm our reputation. This innate sort of pride lingers from that childish fear of getting caught. Kids have to be taught to own up to

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Owning It

Great teammates own their mistakes. This means that when something goes wrong, they do not waste energy distancing themselves from the negative situation. Ordinary teammates step away from problems and point fingers to make sure they come out as clean as possible. Even in situations where there is a shared blame, a great teammate will focus on

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The Response

Mistakes happen. We try to avoid them but humans have limits and mistakes have an annoying way of highlighting those limits. Since our human experience is pretty much a guarantee that we will experience committing mistakes that carry various costs, it is important to consider how to respond to them. The response to a mistake is a

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True versus Fake

Pride is a projection of phony confidence to compensate for a vulnerability I am not comfortable exposing. My pride attempts to guard what I perceive to be my weakness. Pride seems confident but true confidence resides in a peaceful contentment with who I actually am. Pride has an anxiety tell that reveals a lack of true confidence.

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How We Tell It

We tell our minds different versions of each moment or circumstance. A defeat can motivate us to work harder and smarter so that we can eventually overcome an obstacle or opponent. That same defeat can cause us to become insecure and adopt a loser mindset. We always have a choice of what version of the story we

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The goalposts should move.

Today is the result of good days in the past but yesterday’s win should eventually be considered today’s failure if we are hoping for growth. Standards should shift forward. Getting a reward for not wetting ourselves when we were a toddler should not carry the same weight when we are five years old. Goals and what we reward

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Development

Winning is usually the goal but the ongoing goal of every great team is to continue to develop. Win or lose, development is always at the forefront of a great team’s mind. It’s one thing to play the game today, but great teams are great long-term because they see the world through the glasses of the long

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