Category Archives: Handling Failure

True versus Fake

Pride is a projection of phony confidence to compensate for a vulnerability I am not comfortable exposing. My pride attempts to guard what I perceive to be my weakness. Pride seems confident but true confidence resides in a peaceful contentment with who I actually am. Pride has an anxiety tell that reveals a lack of true confidence.

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How We Tell It

We tell our minds different versions of each moment or circumstance. A defeat can motivate us to work harder and smarter so that we can eventually overcome an obstacle or opponent. That same defeat can cause us to become insecure and adopt a loser mindset. We always have a choice of what version of the story we

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The goalposts should move.

Today is the result of good days in the past but yesterday’s win should eventually be considered today’s failure if we are hoping for growth. Standards should shift forward. Getting a reward for not wetting ourselves when we were a toddler should not carry the same weight when we are five years old. Goals and what we reward

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Development

Winning is usually the goal but the ongoing goal of every great team is to continue to develop. Win or lose, development is always at the forefront of a great team’s mind. It’s one thing to play the game today, but great teams are great long-term because they see the world through the glasses of the long

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Choice

Our performances are always a culmination of our choices. I have been hurt in the past and carry just as much baggage as anyone else, but it encourages me that my choices today can help me overcome whatever patterns exist in my life because of the pain caused by the choices of others. It is not easy.

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Handling a Loss

I learned early on that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Losses do not feel good. Failure shines a disappointing light on our ability to do what we set out to do. When I am emotionally secure, I can look at a failure and truly evaluate what went wrong. When I am insecure, I have

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