Category Archives: Handling Disappointment

Cycles Not Lines

Our lives may seem like a roller coaster that has its ups and downs. One minute your happy and flying high as a kite and the next your crashing to the ground. That’s life. But life is not a wavy linear line that randomly blows like the wind. I have learned that life is cyclical. We go

Read More

Play the hand you can.

I would not wish a global pandemic on anyone at any time but I do believe it is important to play the cards that are dealt to us the best we can. Sometimes we get dealt something that is not really a great hand, but if played well, could still lead to a win. In this break

Read More

How will the Astros respond?

The Houston Astros are a great case study in the villain label. They won the championship in 2017 and could have received a villain label for outlasting everyone that year. Recently it has come to light that they may have earned a different type of villain label by cheating and compromising the integrity of the outcome of

Read More

The Disadvantage of Shelter

Sheltered children struggle transitioning to adulthood because of a well-intentioned but misguided philosophy of happiness equaling an absence of pain. People who actively avoid pain because they cannot deal with it in a healthy way do not make great teammates because they cannot imagine what it would be like to stand in the gap when a wave

Read More

Cheater

With the Houston Astros sign-stealing scandal dominating the sports headlines, it is important to understand why cheating is a big deal. Teams are expected to play by the rules. That expectation not only protects the integrity of the team, but also the integrity of the game the team plays. Competition cannot be resolved without an agreed upon

Read More

Healthy Fear

Fear based decisions are always weak and sad and sometimes necessary for safety’s sake. Insecurity is always a slow poison that robs the team of the confidence necessary to have healthy relationships that lead to effective teamwork. However, fear of failure or a fear of not realizing potential is a healthy fear that should not be confused

Read More

Understand

Any teammate can treat the rest of the team well when they are treated well. The test of a great teammate is how they respond when another teammate disappoints them. Sometimes it’s best to try to understand what caused the disappointment. Is it simply a bad day? Did they not sleep well? Are the struggling with other

Read More

Just Say No

Teams can waste time by doing things that are good but not best. Everyone can avoid the obvious time-wasters, but what happens when you are in a time crunch and have to choose between doing two very different activities that each have value towards the team’s goal? Great teams know when to say no to good things

Read More

Meeting the World Where It’s At

When we see the world as it should be, we set ourselves up to live a life of disappointment. I choose to see the world as it is so I can influence closer to the ideal. If I choose to only see the world through a sentimental lens, I would be tempted to expect the ideal and

Read More

What the Antelopes Taught Me

I am often surprised at the common expectation that things should go easily. Everything in life from a young age should set the expectation of consistent trials and tribulation. When I was a kid, I liked to watch the National Geographic and Animal Planet channels and I observed that life is generally a bummer and a struggle.

Read More