Category Archives: Handling Disappointment

True versus Fake

Pride is a projection of phony confidence to compensate for a vulnerability I am not comfortable exposing. My pride attempts to guard what I perceive to be my weakness. Pride seems confident but true confidence resides in a peaceful contentment with who I actually am. Pride has an anxiety tell that reveals a lack of true confidence.

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Symptomatic

The only real difference between pride and insecurity is circumstance. This might seem counterintuitive but pride and insecurity are really symptoms of the same sickness, a lack of confidence in who we actually are. The difference is that good circumstances feed our prideful story that make us feel better than we are and our bad days expose

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Quitting

Actually quitting is more respectable than faking it and convincing others to quit for obvious reasons. If someone is not up to a challenge, it is actually noble to step aside to let someone else take the spot on the team to face the difficulty. Quitting is not always bad if it is strategic. It is bad,

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The Quitter’s Choices

We have all quit something. I bet that most of us have rarely quit based on a spontaneous thought that caused us to walk out on a commitment. This is because, in our culture, there is a stigma for quitters. Most of us don’t want to endure the reputation of being a quitter. This causes a dilemma

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Choose

Believing people can change is more difficult than it sounds. This is because we respond to disappointment with a memory marker that will try to protect us from trusting the source of that disappointment in the future. This doesn’t mean we are a terrible and judgmental person. It just means that we are a person. The reality

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Inconvenient Experience

There is a time for convenience and a time for challenge. Our job should be made more convenient when it comes to tedious tasks and steps in a process. Our work should be streamlined to allow us to be as efficient as possible. Convenience should allow us to work smarter and not harder. Unfortunately, there are times

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Choosing Frustration

Frustration is inevitable but it doesn’t have to be perpetual. Our expectations are often the source of our frustrations. When our expectations are unreasonable, we are more likely to be frustrated. People often struggle with lowering expectations and therefore exist in a chosen perpetual state of frustration. They do this because they refuse to see the world

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Reframing Frustration

For me, frustration is best defined as that feeling I experience when I am unpleasantly surprised. This happens all the time because I am not clairvoyant and, despite how much I think I can predict an outcome, I get it wrong a lot. In order for me to be a great teammate I have to manage my

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Getting Your Wind Back

I remember the first time that I got the wind knocked out of me. Just like everyone, I thought I was going to die. Eventually I got my wind back and calmed down. There is something to the correlation between lack of breath and panic. Logically, breathing is always a priority but strategically, it becomes even more

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Responding Correctly

Every team deals with the moment when everything seems to go wrong. We respond correctly to “emergency” situations when we categorize our response in stages. The typical stages include: Breathe (limit emotion) Assess Triage (do what you can) Repair (do what you should) Learn When we categorize our response to adversity, we allow ourselves to manage our

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