Category Archives: Handling Disappointment

It’s a nice place to visit.

Comfort is what we seek when we are sad, disappointed, scared, or hurt. There is a time and place for comfort but we should understand that comfort is not a place that will grow us in any way. It’s a great place to rest and that is important. However, comfort will never grow us. It will never

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The Danger of Entitlement

Entitlement is a scary attitude that creeps along unnoticed until just the wrong moment. Entitlement is sneaky because it only rears its ugly head when someone doesn’t get their way. Teammates always show their quality in the moment of disappointment. Great teammates understand that the team’s benefit takes priority over personal preference, comfort, and expectations. They also

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The Disappointment Test

Every team loses at some point. Every team gives up a touchdown or a home run at just the wrong moment. It’s the moment immediately following disappointment that determines the quality of a team. Do they respond with backing down and accepting the fact that things didn’t go as planned? Do they turn on each other and begin

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Handling a Loss

I learned early on that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Losses do not feel good. Failure shines a disappointing light on our ability to do what we set out to do. When I am emotionally secure, I can look at a failure and truly evaluate what went wrong. When I am insecure, I have

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Emotional Security

Emotional security may be one of the critical factors determining the success of a team. Seeing the circumstances and ramifications of choices in an emotionally secure way can allow a team to properly self-assess and adjust for future endeavors. Teams with less emotional security are too distracted by their emotional responses to disappointment and success to properly evaluate

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