I am often surprised at the common expectation that things should go easily. Everything in life from a young age should set the expectation of consistent trials and tribulation. When I was a kid, I liked to watch the National Geographic and Animal Planet channels and I observed that life is generally a bummer and a struggle.
Sometimes we get into funks that place us in a state of being that seem like we are taking a step back from how far we’ve made it. What happens when I realize I am better than where I’m at? Was my best day a fluke? Does today’s context create a different expectation and therefore justify the
Whining isn’t cute when a two-year-old does it. It is soul-crushing to a team when a grown person resorts to whining about a non-preferred task. I have to be careful not to whine about whiners so this post will be short. If you don’t like something that is necessary, simply realize that everyone else probably feels the
Sometimes dreams are not just theory that can be debated. Dreams can be necessary for a viable future to become possible. Dreams that seem too high may be the only possible opening for the team’s success or existence. To dismiss dreams as too difficult or too unreasonable is to say no to the lifeboat that inconveniently comes
Life can be tough for those of us with high expectations. Maybe it’s an expectation of faster results or a positive response? High expectations can set us up for disappointment. That disappointment can mess with us. It can cause us to question ourselves and others. What if our expectations were unreasonable in the first place? Would that
Mistakes are inevitable but old mistakes should disappear as a team improves. New mistakes show that the team or individual is progressing. They are learning and moving on with care to avoid the things they have learned don’t work out for the best. Old mistakes demonstrate a lack of care and a recklessness that prevents the team
The ownership of a mistake is not completely found in words that say the right things without laying any blame. That’s a good start but true ownership is demonstrated in changed behavior as result of solid reflection on what caused a mistake. Saying sorry over and over for the same mistake is as annoying as blaming others
Pride is a projection of phony confidence to compensate for a vulnerability I am not comfortable exposing. My pride attempts to guard what I perceive to be my weakness. Pride seems confident but true confidence resides in a peaceful contentment with who I actually am. Pride has an anxiety tell that reveals a lack of true confidence.
The only real difference between pride and insecurity is circumstance. This might seem counterintuitive but pride and insecurity are really symptoms of the same sickness, a lack of confidence in who we actually are. The difference is that good circumstances feed our prideful story that make us feel better than we are and our bad days expose
Actually quitting is more respectable than faking it and convincing others to quit for obvious reasons. If someone is not up to a challenge, it is actually noble to step aside to let someone else take the spot on the team to face the difficulty. Quitting is not always bad if it is strategic. It is bad,