Category Archives: Handling Disagreements

It’s not enough to agree to disagree…

All of us disagree with some portion of the team’s decided direction at some point. My quality as a teammate is best determined in my choices after a disagreement. Can I execute a plan that I disagree with? Is my cooperation and civility contingent on my agreement or the agreement of others? Part of the role of

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Arrogant Judgement

Ordinary teammates tend to get defensive when they discover disagreement. Their insecurity can lead them to strongly desire a resolution to the tension. This of course is not usually the decision to consider the other side of the disagreement but rather a campaign to convert others to the way they see things. The need to agree is

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Humble Disagreement 

What happens when I hear a teammate say or do something that I disagree with? My quality as a teammate is determined by the choice I make in the moment of that disagreement. Great teammates can find a humble security to allow for disagreement to exist. They don’t get bothered that others may not see things their

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Am I who my enemies say I am?

Yes. People don’t disagree well and therefore, people watch those they disagree with closely. Eventually, we make them an enemy in our mind because they stand for something we are against. I have come to realize that valuable information can be gained from what those that resent me think of me. Someone that watches me closely for

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Everything is not democratic.

If leadership waits for a vote and consensus to make a bold move, then that move will likely never happen. The difference between leadership and everyone else is the ability, and therefore the responsibility, to move things away from the status quo. Those without that vision will protect the status quo. That’s okay because their vote represents

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All in?

Team unity is vital to a team’s success. That unity is difficult to maintain because of a little word called “agreement”. The best teams don’t have to agree to be all-in on a direction. This isn’t a blind followship. It’s a humility that acknowledges that my opinions are not always an accurate depiction of reality. When I

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Dead Weight

Individuals that express concerns have a responsibility to move forward regardless of consensus. Great teams do not agree all of the time. They do support each other despite their disagreements. Bad teammates only feel heard when they express their dissent and change the minds of the rest of the team. That’s right, I said bad teammates. A

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