Category Archives: Emotional Security

Putting Down The Baggage

Emotional fitness is an important aspect to consider when we join a team. We all have past experiences that leave a mark on us. Put another way, we all carry baggage that we picked up from our past that we tend to carry with us. When we refuse to deal with emotional responses to past experiences we

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Generalize the Concept

I have mentioned this Clark Gable quote before, but I think it generalizes to much more than the comparison between glamorous and vain women. “I am intrigued by glamorous women… A vain woman is continually taking out a compact to repair her makeup. A glamorous woman knows she doesn’t need to.” Substitute glamorous with mature, experienced, emotionally

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Don’t shun the darkness.

The darkness of our past should inform the brightness of our future. That may sound profound but it just means that we should learn from the version of ourselves that helped us become who we are today without too much resentment or embarrassment. Major league baseball players probably don’t think too much about strike outs that happened

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Wasteful

Insecurity in individuals can be the single most persistent obstacle-maker when it comes to a team coming together. Insecure thoughts cause us to hold back comments that can be constructive. Our insecurities can cause us to see teammates as rivals when we allow envy to seep in. The truth is that the worst-case scenario of our insecurities

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Inoculating Against Regret

Regret is a tough thing to overcome. It can become a hang up that limits our potential as a team or teammate. Regret is the chronic ache of a memory that we have a difficult time letting go of. I find that when we learn from failures and leverage a negative experience into something productive, I am

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Emotionally Secure Empowerment

It takes emotional security for a leader to extend the kind of trust that empowers without the need to approve everything. Leaders that do this rob themselves of the opportunity to have others earn their trust over and over again. Most people that are competent enough to take responsibility should also be given the authority to decide

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The Sheriff

When people gain authority without a firm foundation of emotional security, they end up behaving like that sheriff in the Wild West that would rather be feared than respected. Conflicts become more confrontational than they need to be because they want everyone to know who is in charge. They see people as the problem and pursue them

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Getting Found Out

Nothing manifests insecurity like authority. Insecure people tend to have a negative view of authority because they believe the role of authority is to catch them in the wrong or where they fall short. This insecurity stems from the very real fear that what I am doing isn’t good enough and the person in authority has both

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Social Media Misdirection

Insecurity is really just our constant worry of being found out. We all know that we are not as good as our Facebook status portrays. We are every bit as human as the next person but our constant comparison of what people see versus what I see in myself is chronicled on my social media posts. In

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What do I see?

My perception is always shaded by my emotional security. If I am emotionally secure I see a safe world to operate in. I see others as opportunities to help or learn. When I am insecure, I see the world through a different lens. Others become a threat to all I hold dear. I shift to a more

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