Category Archives: Discipline

Most Influential

A case could be made that the most influential person on the team is the one that has the initiative to take care of the little things no one else is motivated to take care of. Life is a game of inches and the difference between winning and losing can be found in that inch. If we

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The Small Choices

Our trajectory is always a culmination of a choice we made in the recent past. If our trajectory is a growth path, we probably made a hard choice to do what is necessary to grow. These include small decisions like waking up a little earlier, going to bed a earlier, finishing what we started, checking Facebook a

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Quitting

Actually quitting is more respectable than faking it and convincing others to quit for obvious reasons. If someone is not up to a challenge, it is actually noble to step aside to let someone else take the spot on the team to face the difficulty. Quitting is not always bad if it is strategic. It is bad,

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The Faker

When in a self-negotiation on whether to quit or endure, faking it is, in my opinion, the worst. It allows for the quitting of the mind without crossing the line of actually removing ourselves from the difficult situation and thus avoiding the quitter’s stigma. This happens when we cease to believe that the difficult path forward is

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Winning the Negotiation

When we are faced with hard and are tempted to quit, we can choose to endure. The stigma of quitting is often enough to consider this, but other motivations can help us choose endurance when we begin to negotiate with ourselves. This negotiation is tough and it often depends on which version of ourselves will win for

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The Quitter’s Choices

We have all quit something. I bet that most of us have rarely quit based on a spontaneous thought that caused us to walk out on a commitment. This is because, in our culture, there is a stigma for quitters. Most of us don’t want to endure the reputation of being a quitter. This causes a dilemma

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Trust the process.

The phrase “trust the process” came with a lot of ridicule a few years ago when the Philadelphia 76ers began to “tank” to get high draft picks and then proceeded to “red shirt” young players to develop them. When they were losing, people scoffed at their “process”. Now they are an exciting young team that has upgraded

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Mental Toughness

Mental toughness doesn’t see days as good days and bad days. Mental toughness just sees days that we choose to be either good or bad. When I am mentally tough, I do not let circumstances create a sense of entitlement for a break or a pass. Mental toughness allows me to just show up and deal with

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The Conversation for Control

Lapses in discipline are a measure of our lack of “toughness”. They usually happen because we talked ourselves into some sort of compromise that made sense at the time. Of course this conversation usually happens inside of our head and is completely under our control…or is it? When we are tough, we are able to dictate our

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Football taught me more than Kindergarten.

Not everything that I needed to learn was taught in kindergarten. Football taught me that success requires mental toughness. I was constantly challenged to quit. I learned that quitting began in the conversation I had with myself on a long run I struggled to finish. It continued the next day when I thought about whether playing football

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