Category Archives: Communication

Tool or weapon?

If you are being managed by a micromanager, effective communication will highlight the micromanagement tendencies. Most micromanagers don’t know they micromanage. They are proud of their attention to detail and do not trust that others have the same concerns and attention they have. Effective communication is an amoral tool and in the hands of a trusting and

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Highlighting Insecurity

If you are managing insecure people, effective team communication will highlight that insecurity. The good news is that highlight may spark some crucial conversations which will allow you to move forward. This may result in a new opportunity to connect and work as a team but more likely, the consistent practice of team communication will document and

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Baggage

When team communication works, the team creates a habit of sharing the truth about situations. When communication doesn’t work, it’s used to confirm insecure biases on either end of the management spectrum. Much of what we say or communicate is unhelpful or even hurtful. This is why people learn to keep to themselves even when communication is

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Effective Team Communication

Effective team communication is a tool meant to enhance each teammate’s ability to better serve the team and systems they are responsible for. This tool can be misused by those who are prone to micromanaging others. Effective communication should not be designed to be a big brother-like tool to “keep tabs” on others. It’s meant to facilitate

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Seeing the Need

Wanting something for your area of responsibility is not just okay, it is part of your responsibility. When any of us are responsible for anything it is our job to understand and anticipate what is required to maintain a positive result. Too often people show up unprepared because they did not think ahead to anticipate possible contingencies

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Rally Monkey

I grew up in Southern California and we would go to Angels games. The Angels developed a gimmick where if they were down late in the game they would play a video of a monkey in Angels gear jumping around. They called him the rally monkey. They sold stuffed monkeys around the stadium during the rally and

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Outbursts

Passion is never an excuse for an emotional outburst. Anger is a great motivator and sometimes it’s too great. When it’s used to intimidate and influence an argument, it’s wrong. People who have mastered anger management can appear perfectly calm but still be seething inside. This is not fake. This is meek. There is a difference. Fake

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Why not be wronged?

To err is human but today the purity standard that we place on those we deem cancel-worthy is not something we would want to live under ourselves. In fact, most people with high purity standards are demonstrating their own insecurity. They know that they could never live up to that standard and so they make conditions that

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Knowing and Feeling

Emotions are real and shouldn’t be dismissed. They also should not be over-emphasized to justify rash actions. It’s every teammate’s responsibility to maintain a healthy balance between rational thought and emotional motivation. This is done by acknowledging how we feel but choosing to act on what we know. Emotions should move us and facts should decide for

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Intention Beats Inconvenience

Every team that is built to grow requires a feedback loop. This form of important communication requires intentional systems to ensure it happens, even when inconvenient. Convenience is usually the number one priority of those who are fatigued so it is important to create an expectation where, despite the inconvenience, the feedback is expected because anyone can

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