Category Archives: Communication

Rally Monkey

I grew up in Southern California and we would go to Angels games. The Angels developed a gimmick where if they were down late in the game they would play a video of a monkey in Angels gear jumping around. They called him the rally monkey. They sold stuffed monkeys around the stadium during the rally and

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Outbursts

Passion is never an excuse for an emotional outburst. Anger is a great motivator and sometimes it’s too great. When it’s used to intimidate and influence an argument, it’s wrong. People who have mastered anger management can appear perfectly calm but still be seething inside. This is not fake. This is meek. There is a difference. Fake

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Why not be wronged?

To err is human but today the purity standard that we place on those we deem cancel-worthy is not something we would want to live under ourselves. In fact, most people with high purity standards are demonstrating their own insecurity. They know that they could never live up to that standard and so they make conditions that

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Knowing and Feeling

Emotions are real and shouldn’t be dismissed. They also should not be over-emphasized to justify rash actions. It’s every teammate’s responsibility to maintain a healthy balance between rational thought and emotional motivation. This is done by acknowledging how we feel but choosing to act on what we know. Emotions should move us and facts should decide for

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Intention Beats Inconvenience

Every team that is built to grow requires a feedback loop. This form of important communication requires intentional systems to ensure it happens, even when inconvenient. Convenience is usually the number one priority of those who are fatigued so it is important to create an expectation where, despite the inconvenience, the feedback is expected because anyone can

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Caring Curiosity

Collaboration requires communication. Assumptions are the enemy to teamwork because they waste time and effort undoing work or figuring out where the same work was done separately. Communication requires curiosity about what others are contributing and how I can contribute. Those who are in the habit of not communicating are not curious and do not want you

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Abdicating to a PC Consensus

Leadership is absent when the majority is empowered to decide everything. In a democratic country built on the will of the people, it may be difficult to separate when democracy is a virtue and when it is a front for a lack of real leadership. Leaders do not defer to the will of the uniformed. An example

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Integrity

Trust is something that every team must cultivate. If teammates do not trust each other, the team will struggle to function as a unit. Trust is best develop over a series of opportunities that demonstrate that a person means what they say and says what they mean. Put another way…what they actually do matches what they said

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Zombie Cat Boxes

Truth can seem very philosophical but it is really simple. Contrary to what many people would like to believe, truth is exclusive in that it can’t coexist with whatever is contrary to it. Two separate unrelated realities can be true at the same time but two possibilities that are diametrically opposed cannot be true at the same

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Bitter Seeds

Great teams do not leave anything to chance. This is especially true of conflict. Conflict is something every team will face. What separates a team from another is how they respond to conflict. I have observed that most team dysfunction is centered on the team’s ability to handle conflict in a healthy way. Dysfunction holds a team

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