Monthly Archives: February 2020

Wearing the Label Well

We are all villains in someone’s story. This is especially true if you defeat an opponent often enough or are in a position to hold others accountable. People often require a target for their blame and the “villain” is the best place to aim. Every villain has a choice to earn the label through nefarious deeds or

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Observation vs Conclusion (Judgement)

What we see and what we decide are two different things. Unfortunately, these two things happen almost simultaneously for ordinary people. I feel bad for those who make up their minds without enough information. They are tough to be around and make horrible teammates. Great teammates learn to separate the moment of observation from the moment of

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Short-Term View

Control is something that feels good in the short-term but when we fight too hard for it, we actually lose something far more powerful…influence. Everyone can sense when a control freak is defending their turf and that defense limits the influence the control freak actually has. We tend to trust people who trust us and that trust

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The Limit of Imagination

Control is tough to give up. Control brings security and assurance that things will go the way we think they should go…the right way. I have noticed a correlation between my most insecure moments and my need for control. My insecurities can cause me to scramble or fight for the control I feel I need to keep

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Liar Brain

Have you ever worked out so hard that you could barely push the brake pedal when you tried to drive home? Have you ever pushed yourself physically past the point of nausea and kept going? Most people haven’t and therefore have no idea what their physical and mental limit is. Our mental limits are almost always liars

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The Disadvantage of Shelter

Sheltered children struggle transitioning to adulthood because of a well-intentioned but misguided philosophy of happiness equaling an absence of pain. People who actively avoid pain because they cannot deal with it in a healthy way do not make great teammates because they cannot imagine what it would be like to stand in the gap when a wave

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Our Relationship with Pain

We can either treat pain like a good teacher or an evil one to be avoided at all costs. How we respond shows us what we are able to handle. If we run from pain, we know we cannot handle much adversity. That may feel like a harsh judgement and it’s probably true of the majority of

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Embracing Adversity

Every team must be built in such a way that they can outlast not only an opponent but also adversity. If it’s not the weather it could be a flu season that makes things a little more difficult than usual. These moments should never be avoided because adversity reveals the character of a team. When things get

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A Way Back

When a team or teammate lets you down, there has to be a way back. No one is defined by their worst moment. When a mistake is made, it is corrected when improvement and progress are evident. When a cheater is exposed, they are redeemed when they prove that they can move forward within the rules by

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Doghouse

I have been watching the various apologies by Houston Astro players and team executives for the sign stealing that they have been proven to have participated in during their 2017 championship season and I am surprised at a couple of things. I am surprised at the scripted apologies from multiple players. When someone else writes your apology,

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