How do I know when I am not supportive?
When I cannot help myself from looking for others that might share my disagreement, I am in danger of harming the team dynamic for the sake of my preference or agenda. If I have gotten to the point that my disagreement has taken the form of a moral judgement, then I must think about why I would want to continue on the team. When that moral judgement becomes righteous anger, I am not only in danger of harming the team dynamic, but I am also unlikely to be able to separate from the team in an amicable way. Anger makes us feel more right than we really are and tends to justify exaggerated feelings and less than useful comments. It’s my responsibility as a good teammate to remain so by self-monitoring my ability to support the team despite my dissent.