I notice that pleasant memories of the past tend to pop up when we are frustrated with the effort required in the present. The thing is that we tend to forget the bad part of our pleasant past. Our past was not likely as pleasant as we remember. This is especially true if we are remembering a
Regret is also a habit of the nostalgic. Remembering watershed moments is important but allowing ourselves to become overly affectionate about the “good ole days” can cause us to miss the good of today or the potential of the future. It can also set us up for regret when things do not turn out like they used
Regret is a tough thing to overcome. It can become a hang up that limits our potential as a team or teammate. Regret is the chronic ache of a memory that we have a difficult time letting go of. I find that when we learn from failures and leverage a negative experience into something productive, I am
It takes emotional security for a leader to extend the kind of trust that empowers without the need to approve everything. Leaders that do this rob themselves of the opportunity to have others earn their trust over and over again. Most people that are competent enough to take responsibility should also be given the authority to decide
Teammates that see feedback as a personal attack are too insecure to improve. Their perspective is to avoid feedback because the very message that improvement is needed strikes at their insecurity that they don’t measure up. The defensive teammate categorizes it as a problem saying that the team is too critical but I have found that accusation
How do I know if someone on the team embraces and expects evaluation? I believe there are clear moments that naturally occur on any team that seeks to improve. Teammates that do not get defensive when feedback is given are on the right track. Teammates that receive feedback well not only acknowledge the need to change but
One of the most important attributes that a team should recruit for is a healthy expectation of evaluation, accountability, and feedback. There are people that have gone their entire lives avoiding feedback because of a bad example or experience early on. Those people quickly become dead weight to a team because when the time comes to evaluate,
Leadership moments are often thought of as inspiring pep talks or speeches. They are actually much less glamorous than the movies make them out to be. Real leadership moments happen during the hard but necessary conversations that challenge others to improve. People who don’t understand leadership often mistake those conversations as someone being rude enough to insinuate
Belief is something that can influence everything we do. It’s the inner source of our thought patterns. When I am insecure and do not believe in myself, I may project that belief on others. If I don’t believe in myself, how could anyone else? The positive side of projection of belief is that I can project my
When we are hopeful, it is hard to imagine that others are not. This allows us to act on that hope in a way that may actually inspire those that lack our sense of hope. This is where our projection works for us. If we knew how hopeless others really thought the situation was, we could be