Monthly Archives: August 2018

Football taught me more than Kindergarten.

Not everything that I needed to learn was taught in kindergarten. Football taught me that success requires mental toughness. I was constantly challenged to quit. I learned that quitting began in the conversation I had with myself on a long run I struggled to finish. It continued the next day when I thought about whether playing football

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Tough versus Soft

It’s tough to be kind to those that disagree with me. It’s tough to take an insult based on things I cannot control. It’s tough to fail and watch others succeed. Its’ tough to not blame my failure on the success of others. Perhaps it’s not that our culture is becoming less civil, but that it is

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The Opportunity in a Soft Culture

Our culture has developed into an odd contradiction. It cries for equity and justice and disparages success. It also seems to be attempting to avoid the difficult aspects of what true success requires. All sides of the political spectrum may be driving this, but social media and other media seem to highlight the easy route of disparaging

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How HOW Challenges

The HOW is different than other interrogative words not only because it tests authority and competence, but also because it changes and challenges more than the others. Great teams recognize that the HOW needs to evolve as the team grows and as their mission progresses. Consider the phrase, “What got us here, will not take us where

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How “HOW” Tests a Team

What and why is usually not as controversial as how. Most people can agree on the all-important “why”. It’s the cause and the sexy reason to be on the team. It is WHY we allowed ourselves to be recruited. The “what” is also a no-brainer because the work before any team is often very evident to everyone.

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Becoming Weird

Once we learn to like the areas of discipline in our lives, we become weird to others that have not chosen that route. I am willing to bet that those that struggle with their reputation among others lack the discipline their lives need because they are embarrassed of what it takes to like being disciplined. Embracing discipline

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Fake the Hype

Sports teams call it hype. People are often afraid to be hype and others are afraid to fake the hype. Hype is just a term for enthusiasm. Discipline is probably best defined as having the will to do what you don’t feel like doing but should do. Having the attitude of dragging ourselves out of bed early

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Avoiding Accountability

When we seek balance in our work life instead of blending it with our play life, we are able to avoid accountability. On one side, we can blame the need to overwork and our lack of connection on the workload and the importance of our work. This is unhealthy and people recognize this as workaholic behavior. On

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Blend, Not Balance

Work and play seem to get categorized differently. Those that seem to enjoy work can then be judged as less fun than those that live for those weekend moments with family and friends. There are definitely people who overwork to the detriment of their relationships. But there are also people who underwork to the detriment of their

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Rewarding Loud

Every good parent knows that rewarding undesired behavior will only reinforce that undesired behavior. This seems like a no brainer until your child’s incessant crying or whining wears you down to give in and give them what they want. At that moment, the child doesn’t only get what they want, they have also gained the leverage over

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