Choosing the Mirage
It’s easier to speak for someone else because we don’t have to actually have a conversation. When we make up our mind about what someone else will do or say, we get to operate in the reality of our choosing. The problem is that while that is easier, it may also be a mirage. When I tell myself that I am alone because no one will help me without actually asking, I live in an isolated mirage. When I withhold feedback because I have decided someone will not value it, I create a hopeless situation based on a judgement that is doomed to repeat itself. People can change. People can listen. People want to help. People can surprise us.