Handling a Loss
I learned early on that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Losses do not feel good. Failure shines a disappointing light on our ability to do what we set out to do. When I am emotionally secure, I can look at a failure and truly evaluate what went wrong. When I am insecure, I have to explain away the result that doesn’t match what I believe about myself. That search for blame outside of my own performance distracts me from solving the personal problems I can directly control that caused the loss.