Understanding the Inevitable
I have been on teams since tee-ball in the first grade. Since then I have left every team in order to move on to the next one. Leaving a team is hard but inevitable. It’s going to happen. I have learned that it doesn’t do any good to give into the sentiment that doesn’t acknowledge the fact that I will leave a team someday. Acknowledging the inevitable is not the same as looking to leave. This is important because leaving well is difficult to do when the expectation is not to leave at all. That feeling of disappointment will only compound the emotions that will occur when you have to say goodbye to people who have given and received so much emotional investment. Understanding that day is inevitable helps to manage the emotion without unnecessary disappointment. I once heard a wise football coach answer the question from a player about the possibility of him taking a job at another school by saying, “It’s important to understand that, one day, one of the two of us is going to leave the other. You will graduate or I will take the next step in my career. Either way, this isn’t forever.” The player seemed to understand that nothing should be expected to last forever. An exit doesn’t have to be personal if it is done with care.