Nice or Kind
Would you rather be kind or nice? They are not the same thing. They are not even synonyms in my mind. Nice teammates tend to always say the nice and positive thing. There isn’t much conflict but there isn’t much truth either. Things move along without any real ripples until something embarrassing happens that can’t be nicely ignored. In contrast, the kind teammate will also stay positive but won’t avoid conflict. Kind teammates are honest in moments where there are opportunities to improve or to discuss possible obstacles. Our culture tends to equate disagreement or conflict with hate but the kind teammate is valuable because kindness promotes the safety required for honesty. Nice just continues to pretend until you can’t pretend anymore. Nice isn’t actually all that kind in its culminating moment of inevitable conflict.