Popular or Steady?
I have observed that the person who is the team’s steadying force does not hold a popular position. To be a steadying force you must be prepared to have a short friends list. Not many people like the voice of reason in the moment, but they are generally grateful enough to keep that voice of reason around. The upside to being a steadying force is that you will always know who your friends are. When a person doesn’t move with the tide of popular opinion, they don’t have to wonder who appreciates them for who they are. This creates a life of consistency, integrity, and deep friendships that aren’t easily shaken because they are tested and strengthened often over time. Those who move with the tide often do so because relationships and appreciation are contingent on their willingness to follow and agree with the momentum of popular opinion. That team will have a roller coaster ride of emotion and surface deep relationships.